Missie Eff

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  I still hate.......

  by ashitaka in

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  what things do you guys hate, why, and what do you do about it?.

  ashi.

  "you ever get lonely?.".

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  Missie Eff

  Thank you for your comment, Dana. No offense taken! I have deliberately used this signature to cause discussion.

  I've learnt so much from my 2-year old son. He loves unconditionally and hasn't learnt to hate yet.

  I think we all have so much to learn from very young children - they are so free to forgive. It's only when they get older, when we've loaded our crap onto them that they change.

  Love means different things to different people. So does hate.

  PS I've just finished a huge bowl of chocolate custard. Go get some, you know you want to...

  love never fails
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  What's everyone doing for Christmas?

  by Missie Eff in

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  i'm in a quandry.. came out of the organisation a few years ago, have spend a couple of chilled out christmasses in front of the fire.

  no presents, decorations etc, no problem!

  but... my little boy is getting older and my ex-husband (my son's father and also an ex-jw) is concerned that he will miss out, just like we did as kids.. but, i am reluctant to do the whole christmas thing.

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  Missie Eff

  Like your suggestions Cygnus. We're all coming to your house for the festive period!

  I have a two year old child in tow though - may not be entirely suitable for him.
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  I still hate.......

  by ashitaka in

  1. jw
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  what things do you guys hate, why, and what do you do about it?.

  ashi.

  "you ever get lonely?.".

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  Missie Eff

  Pure love doesn't fail. Doesn't always bring us what we want but doesn't fail.
  Motive is important.

  Have decided that I hate hating. Too self-destructive. Let's all go eat chocolate!!

  love never fails
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  What's everyone doing for Christmas?

  by Missie Eff in

  1. jw
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  i'm in a quandry.. came out of the organisation a few years ago, have spend a couple of chilled out christmasses in front of the fire.

  no presents, decorations etc, no problem!

  but... my little boy is getting older and my ex-husband (my son's father and also an ex-jw) is concerned that he will miss out, just like we did as kids.. but, i am reluctant to do the whole christmas thing.

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  Missie Eff

  Thanks for all your suggestions - keep em coming!

  I'm off out to buy my tree now...

  My son will thank you.
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  I still hate.......

  by ashitaka in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  what things do you guys hate, why, and what do you do about it?.

  ashi.

  "you ever get lonely?.".

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  Missie Eff

  Subordination of women.

  Brainwashing of children.

  Crumbs in the bed.

  love never fails
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  What's everyone doing for Christmas?

  by Missie Eff in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm in a quandry.. came out of the organisation a few years ago, have spend a couple of chilled out christmasses in front of the fire.

  no presents, decorations etc, no problem!

  but... my little boy is getting older and my ex-husband (my son's father and also an ex-jw) is concerned that he will miss out, just like we did as kids.. but, i am reluctant to do the whole christmas thing.

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  Missie Eff

  I'm in a quandry.

  Came out of the organisation a few years ago, have spend a couple of chilled out Christmasses in front of the fire. No presents, decorations etc, no problem! But... my little boy is getting older and my ex-husband (my son's father and also an ex-JW) is concerned that he will miss out, just like we did as kids.

  But, I am reluctant to do the whole Christmas thing. It all seems like such a commercial rat race. I know that I must sound like bit of a humbug but I don't know if its the JW in me or my dislike of parting with my hard earned dosh.

  Someone throw me a line here.
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  jw's just at my door

  by beepers in

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  i still am newly inactive (5 months).

  i just moved to a new area, feeling pretty good about things.

  finding out about myself and what i want from life for me and my daughter.. today my door bell rang.

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  Missie Eff

  Hi Beepers!
  I'm new here too!! :)
  Good for you!
  They daren't come anyway near my door. The elders are meant to call on disfellowshipped evil doers every once in a while to make sure that there is no change of heart - haven't seen anyone yet...
  A couple of elders called on my Mum the other day. I don't think they'll be back in a hurry - especially when she's ready to challege them with the same point you raised.
  Be ready with the frying pan next time around...
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  Frightened That JW's May Be Right?

  by Englishman in

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  is the wtbts qualified to run your life for you?

  lets take a look.. i was just musing over the threads that relate to disciplining children by means of physical punishment.

  there is plenty of material in the societies magazines that advocate hitting children, in the 60s publications there is even a picture of a man spanking a child.

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  Missie Eff

  Really good essay Englishman. Really struck a chord with me, especially the subject title. I suppose, if we are all brutally honest, it is all likely that we will have a small doubt somewhere at the back of the mind about whether we should have left. Doesn't seem logical but it instead comes from years of conditioning.
  The reasoning the WT uses is so pursuasive and preys on the vunerable, making THEIR teachings, THEIR interpretations and THEIR opinions seem to be common sense, and above all, truth. The whole fear factor enters and logic goes out of the window.
  There's a fine line between being brainwashed and having faith.
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  Anyone into on-line games?

  by wannahelp in

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  hey,.

  how about we get together and play some on-line games?.

  yahoo has great card games.. or how about some chess.. .

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  Missie Eff

  Sounds like good wholesome Christian entertainment like what you stay in for with your good wholesome Christian family.

  Next we'll all be pictured sitting under a rug under a tree on a sunny day, with smiles on our faces - on the cover of Awake!
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  Having Children Inside vs Outside The Organizatio

  by Ranchette in

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  i feel cheated because i wouldnt know what its like to experience pregnancy and the birth of my children the way it was meant to be.. a completely natural and joyous event in human life was sabotaged by this religion!.

  im sure there are others who know what i mean.. i would be interested to hear stories of others who have had children both inside and out of this organization.. i would like to explain what i mean.. i was raised as a witness and was always expected to be an example.

  from as far back as i can remember we were taught that armageddon was just around the corner.

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  Missie Eff

  Too right you're on the right track now.

  I'm under the opinion that nothing in life should mean more to you than your family. Children are great - enjoy them before they grow up!

  Much love